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482 Responses to “Navy Dependency Waiver”
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My step son would like to join the Navy, but he has been told by the recruiter that he is too old,(He is 28.) and that he has too many dependents, ( He is married with three daughters). If I and my wife take custody of the kids until he reaches E-4 or E-5, will he then be allowed to join with one dependent (his wife)? I am retired from the USN as well and am aware of the burden the girls will place on us but it is worth it if this will light a fire under his butt and get him going in life. He is extremely intelligent and I think would make an excellent candidate for the nuclear program.
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Hello I have another question!!!
1.If I get married while in DEP will I have to get some sort of waiver?
2.What will happen If I have a child while unmarried in DEP and have joint custody?
3.Finally can a sailor with joint custody of a child add the child as a dependent?
If I get in I will probably be an E-3, sorry for the confusion but I am trying to plan a family while attempting to get into the Navy as I am trying to explore all available options.
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OK so if I have a child after I successfully enlist, after a year of service, without being married, will they kick me out?
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Hello, me and my wife are considering divorce, I am currently on active duty after 2 years of service (E-4) and I have 1 child with her and another child by another women. Can I keep physical custody of my children and not loose rank? Can I also maintain my current BAH pay by having these kids as Dependants and no married spouse? Not sure if I am posting in the right place but i am desperate and would like a second opinion before me and my wife proceed.
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Hello sir, no what happened is my brothers are using my computer to ask questions that they are to scared to ask their recruiter. My name is Thomas and I am an E-4 in the Navy I am encouraging my 2 brothers to join too under the buddy program due to both of them having problems finding jobs in this tough economy. Both of them have gotten into trouble and will probably need a CNRC waiver based on the information in your chart. As for me i have always stayed out of trouble. However now I am having spousal problems with my wife. Dale asked me about staring a family in the navy and having kids and we searched the web a stumbled upon this site. Sorry for any confusion from now on I will tell them to use their own computers at their homes!!! lol
However if me and my wife do divorce and I get a child care certificate as well as keep the children as Dependants will I still be able to maintain my current BAH allowance that I get for having my wife as a Dependant?
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I have been getting the run around. My whole family is military and I was told by an OSO that I can go AD and get a dependent waiver since I am a single parent as long as I have a parenting plan and a General POA, which will not be a problem to obtain. But I am also getting told from recruiters that I can only go in as a Reservist unless I give my child up and then the first part of my tour I won’t be able to get him back or have him live with me. I read the chart above but I just want to know if I was able to go AD or not? I was a DEPer but since I had a child I got out and want to go back pursuing the USN.
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My fiancé and I are considering getting married before I ship to bootcamp in June. I have discussed it with my recruiter and at first she said it was not a big deal; no affect on my job or ship date -even when I told her that he has 2 daughters which we do not have physical custody of. Then I get a phone call that I will have to get a cnrc waiver after we have the marriage certificate. She still says it won’t affect my job or ship date but I am scared that it will. What should I expect? Thank you :)
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30 year old female ged but 72 college hours and 57 asvab wantin to join the navy I have three children but i married a gentleman whose xwife gave up their 3 children now i have 6 children is it totally impossible to join the navy now.
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so not even for the reserves. Has the navy always been like that or could this change
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Hello I read all the comments but still getting different answers about this Dependency waiver. I’m married with two children, took the ASVAB and physical. Now Its been two weeks waiting on a waiver to pick a job and ship date. What’s the longest it can take? Why would it be denied? and would a recruiter actually lie to you and say they dont have it because of quotas? Im just sick of the run around of not knowing what’s going on so I can plan on being in the Navy Reserves or not! Thanks in advance.
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I have a question. I recently joined the marines but was discharged because of a dependent waiver gone wrong. I have one son and have joint custody of him with my mom, would that make me ineligible to join? and if not would i have to move out to join? The marines told me the reason i was discharged was because my mother and i share joint custody and i was staying in the same house as her and my child.
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I’m a Father of two, recently separated from the mother. She has custody of both children. I’ve been wanting to enlist for 4-5 years now, and watched friends without children go around me. My question is this – over everything I want to make sure my children are taken care of- how much money will my ex get to take care of my children and how much will I receive to live off of every month enlisting, and does testing extremely high on the asvab give me the posibility of regaing custody of my children, if not after how many years can I? Sorry for the format.
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My boyfriend wants to joing the Navy I have a child of my own and we also have a child together we are planing to get married should we get married before he starts the elistment process or after? If we get married before how long would a waiver take to process?
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Iam married and my son is 17 years old now but will be 18 years old before I ship to basic do I still need a waiver to enlist? It just seems like a waste of time to do all the paper work when Im not even leaving until after he is of legal age. I want to enlist this week but cant leave until after mid August his birthday is in July.
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Oh so its that financial sheet? Also is the CO NRD are they somewhere else or is it the recruiter? So will I do this paperwork before MEPS? Sorry IM just really excited. Also if I go active how long does it typically take before an enlistee can go back to college?
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Oh and thank you so much for answering!
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I’m married with 3 children and planning on going Active Duty. I know I’m going to need a waiver due to 4 dependents. Will it be difficult obtaining one since the Navy is pretty much overmanned now OR should I wait until October when the new FY starts and maybe have a better chance?
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I am considering getting married to an AD service member and still want to enlist as AD in the USN as well. What is the special waiver that I keep seeing I will need? I have a child from a previous relationship. Would I be disqualified ?
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My boyfriend and I have a child together, and he wants to enlist in the Navy. He is on the birth certificate, and we are living together with our child. However, we are not married and are not going to get married. Does he have to give up legal custody of our daughter, and if so, what does that process entail? The recruiter cannot give him any information regarding this subject, but can any of you please share what you know on this matter? Your help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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i recently got married while in DEP, i gave all the needed paper work to my recruiter to process to change my dependency from single to married, i went to meps with him and ended leaving there with nothing accomplished, now hes telling me i have to bring all my paper work to boot camp for them to process because he cant do it. whats going to happen when i show up to boot and there is a change in my dependency and they have no records of it?
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Good Morning,
Several months ago I attempted to join active duty. Here’s my story: I sponsored my husband from abroad and he now here in the us; I have 3 children with 3 different men and my last one if for my husband; I have a court ordered child support for my 1st two children; my mother is power of attorney; and I scored 51. The 1st time I went in the office they said wait till he gets into the country. The 2nd time they said ” your mom needs to be POA”. The 3rd time they said ” Score higher on the ASVAB” and the 4th time, ” You have too many dependants, you will never be able to go active nor reserve”… I was discouraged… but after a year.. The light turned back on and i’m back in school working on my bach and hope to start my masters in a few years. Before i’m finished, i might attempt to try the navy again.. and maybe try to go for a E5 or above…. What do you think about my story?
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My spouse is AD in the US Army, and together we have 5 kids. Is it unreasonable to think that I could enlist in the Navy as a dual-military family (we waivered into the US Army and since have added a child to our family while on an overseas tour).
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Hello, I have been reading the previous posts and this is all very informative. I have a question of my own. I am about sign a contract with the Navy and be placed into the DEP program. I am currently married with 1 child and one on the way. Since my wife is pregnant when I will be signing my contract, will this adversely affect my chances of shipping out. I’ve told my recruiter numerous times, however he says to not worry about it, because there is no SSN to document the child. Shouldn’t the Navy consider 3 dependents vs 2 even if the child is not born yet?
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I am unmarried, my girlfriend and I have a four year old son. I really want to join the Navy.
From the looks of it, do I have to give up sole physical custody? I really don’t want to do this, in case anything happens to my relationship while I’m gone. Can I file for joint, and have my parents act on my behalf while I’m gone? As I said, I would really like to join, I’m only 22 and feel the Navy is a great opportunity, but I would like to explore every avenue possible before I decide to give up all my custody. :/
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Hi i am married and had 1 child from previous relationship (child is living in the Philippines with my pArents and in the process of bringing him here in US by 2012) recruiter told me that makes 2 dependent and still qualify me for enlisting….i Am about go and take the asvab and meps. If i pass all the requirements and put into DEP before bootcamp…And let say my wife got pregnant before me shipping out…would I be Disqualifed from NAVY or would they give waiver for having 3 dependent (wife, child and unborn) Whats their policy for this? Recruiter said i might be DQ if this happen.
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This is the most informative information I have found in the last three weeks of attempting to talk to recruiters. Here is my issue. I have wanted to join the Navy for years…recruiter messed it up the first time when I was 17 and single (long story, not worth the effort here). Now I am married…I have 2 children biologically who do NOT live with me and I am currently paying child support (yes, a court order is in place). My wife has 3 children, only ONE of which we have custody. The other two, by court order, live with their grandparents. As far as I can tell, the Navy regs talk about stepchildren that live with the applicant (me) and natural children OF THE APPLICANT no matter where they live. Is this correct? Do I have 4 dependents or 6?
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OK, silly question. What if I were divorced, and then got married after basic training? Is it an instant thing…once I have 6 dependents am I discharged, or is the limit only for enrollment? From what I understand, I would still get BAH and such since I have the 2 dependents anyway.
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My son is currently DEP and departs in November. His girlfriend just told him she was pregnant. She is due when he is in bootcamp. He is not 100% sure its his, but acknowledges that it is most likey his child. They do not plan to marry at this time. He does plan to provide financial support if he is the father. Will this affect his enlistment or deployment date? What is he required to do?
Thank you
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Hi i hope you can answer my question in regards of joining the Navy while in process of filing Chapter 7 or Bankruptcy. I talked to my recruiter and he said Navy would still enlist people who filed bankruptcy but will likely get hard time getting security clearance…i am okay with jobs w/o clearance anyway. My question is after i file Bankruptcy would they still processed me in MEPS while waiting for my court order to be discharged on my debts or let say after i get processed in MEPS then i file my bankruptcy while waiting for bootcamp? (am i allowed to do that?) Theres no way i can avoid filing bankruptcy and i really want to join the navy as soon as possible. Thanks
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Wow thanks for that quick reply…this site comes in handy. I am in a Dillema to file or not to file…I have a choice of just holding on not to file until i finish DEP up to bootcamp (most likely 6 Months) but then again my wife will definitely file Bankruptcy and on that she will include the car (where i am co signer on loan) means i will be affected as well…we really having financial trouble and cant afford any more payments…Now from what you suggest it is a definite to get out of my debts (after get discharged from bankruptcy) then get processed in MEPS…well that will put me in a situation to wait couple of 5-6 MOnths to get discharged from bankruptcy…..and …then another 6 months before bootcamp…Thank you very much you been helpful.
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Good Morning,
I am 9 months pregnant and due any day now. My (unborn) daughters father left for boot camp the first week in July. I took him to his recruiter numerous times during the enlisting process. The recruiter was aware that i was pregnant, but the last time we went to finalize the paperwork he only asked for his other daughter (from a previous relationship) information to be listed. What steps should i take to make sure my daughter is listed? And also since he is in boot camp he will not be here to sign the Birth Certificate so how would i go about getting that completed? Now he will have a total of 2 children, never married, will he be discharged because he didnt list her or for the amount children he has now? Im just really confused and Im unsure of why this was not taken care of before he was shipped out.
Thank You
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I do apologize but i just want to make sure i am clear. I live in the state of MD. So i am able to sign his name on the birth certificate?
Again thank you! This information is very helpful.
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Hi…just asked a recruiter about joining the navy. im married, 30yrs old with 3 children. thy said i would be denied due to too many dependents but your chart says no more than 4. can u clarify this for me? thank you.
-Tori
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It’s ashame that they would do that for honest americans trying to serve our country. thank you for your help.
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I have a question. I just recently swore into the Navy Reserve with 2 dependants. I am currently in the DEP until shipping out. Just found out that my girlfriend is pregnant and was hiding it for sometime. Will this disqualify me now from going to Boot camp? Any information and advice would be appreciated
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Hello- my fiance is thinking about joining the Navy. We want to get married before he leaves for bootcamp. I have horrible credit and a ton of student loans, will this stop him from joining?
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Hello
I had a question. Im 24 and married with 2 kids. Am I still eligible for enlistment into AD?
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Me again. So a new waiver is required, but doesn’t necessarily mean that it will be approved, right? Would I also have to have a court order giving up custody when I report to boot camp if the waiver is approved?
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I am a married mother of two children. I am wanting to enlist in the navy but my husband is not supporting me. He says I can go but he refuses to give me his birth certificate and S.S. Card to give to my recruiter. I know I will require a waiver. We are considering becoming legally separated, how will this effect my waiver? will i still need his info if we get a legal separation. Also if i enlist im willing to sign over custody. And are waivers for 3 dependents approved often, and what are the determining factors.
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Waiver Approval Length:
Hi, My recruiter has never done a waiver before and I am his 1st (due to my wife and 2 daughters) It has been 9 WEEKS so far and the recruiter calls weekly to check on the waiver and tells me that he gets told it hasn’t been reviewed Yet.
My question to you-is there at least an estimate in your experience to how long it takes to get an answer? I have no idea if i’m looking at a 6 month wait or a 1 year wait or maybe it’s likely that by next month i’ll have an answer but i’m just completely in the dark (not anyones fault just due to it being his 1st waiver) Even any round about time frame as to how long it takes for the average waiver to be reviewed by the CNRC would greatly be appreciated.Thanks for your Help
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Waiver Approval Length:
Hi, in 2 days it will be 10 Weeks that i’m waiting to hear if my waiver was approved so I took your advice and had a Petty Officer check on it today. She was actually there at meps and she told me the computer says my waiver status is pending. I was told this means it’s not lost just still waiting to be processed. In your opinion, do you think that sounds correct or should I actually have them find my paperwork. I just don’t want to keep bothering them and hurt my chances of it being approved.
Thanks Again
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Sir
I have a wife and three kids. I been reading and have seen a mixed
bad and Q&A along the same line I have. However I will ask and see and make sure I have the answer I need. I’m 28 Y/O I would like to join the Navy doing the Law enforcement or Fire Protection or something emergency service being that what I been doing in the civil side for 6 years now and will that help me if I was to enlist? . How ever like I said I have a wife and three kids. I was told there should be no problem geting a waver. Now I have seen things about giveing kids up to famley and so on. This is some thing I’m not sure I understand why this would have to happen with a waver or dose it? This is some thing I would not be keen with and would likely stop me from joining. My dad was a MP in the USMC and I was the oldest of 3. So hope maybe you can clear some thing up for me. My dad is not a happy camper after I told him I talked to a Navy recuter.
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So after I get this 70 lbs of extra weight is gone. Then I can print out the financial statement and fill it out. Or is this some thing I can now so I can see if I’m not wasteing the Navy’s time and my time.
I mean I have some old school lones but no house, car payment ECT.
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Oh and retake the asvab. I can even recall what I made back in high school. That would I need to make in the ASVAB for Fire Protrction/ emergency service Or law enforcement for Navy?
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My ship date is September 13, 2011…I just was served a court date for December 5, 2011. It is for child support that I filed on myself. Would I still be able to leave on my ship date and return for my court date?
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Sir I took my ASVAB is 2002. However what scores would I need
IE for Fire Fightering, Law Enforcement. And also I can print out the financial statement and fill it out. Or is y some thing I can do now so I can see if I’m not wasteing the Navy’s time and my time.
I mean I have some old school lones but no house, car payment ECT.
some bad debt but not alot. Or is this a process that I would have to hold off on untill I lose 70 lbs then start that process
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Hi, I am married to someone who is active duty Air Force, and we have two children. We’ve been having some problems and currently live separately. I have the children, and it is a constant struggle trying to provide for them. I live on a budget and generally manage to pay for food, utilities, etc., but I have debts that there is no extra money for paying. I want to join the Navy, because I believe I can provide a much better life for them—and meet my financial obligations—if I do so. I have accounts that are in collections that I cannot pay on; it’s not that I don’t want to pay, but that there is just never enough money to live on. Will this prevent me from joining the Navy, if I can show that I can and will be able to make my payments once enlisted? I know I’ll need a waiver to be AD with my husband, but setting up a family care plan is not a problem.
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Hello,
I have a couple of questions! I have read all of the previous answers and I am still confused. My husband is 30 years old and wanting to enlist in the navy. He scored a 76 on the ASVAB a few years ago, and he has an associates degree in Social Sciences. He has always wanted to join the Navy, but he let his father talk him out of it because of some health issues (with his father). Three years ago we decided that we could not live our lives based on his fathers health and we should just go for it. I was pregnant with our second child. His vision is bad, his re-frag rate was a 13 so his waiver was not approved, I do not know if they even got to the point of considering the dependency waiver. He still has not been able to let go of the desire to serve and join the Navy. We decided to pay out of our own pockets for LASIK surgery. The ophthalmologists believes he’s is a good candidate and that he will be able to adjust his re-frag rate to a 2 or 3. The recruiter we spoke with says to go through with the surgery and apply again. Since we are funding this ourselves and money is a little tight, I would love an honest answer as to his chances of getting the waivers approved.Our last recruiter would not even answer his phone calls to find out if the waiver was approved, we had to have another recruiter give us the information! BTW I am a working nurse so we have another stable income, but we had a bankruptcy 5 years ago, and a few blemishes in the last few years while I attended nursing school. By the time he enlists the only thing we will owe is one car payment for $350.00 a month, and about $40,000 in student loans that are in deferment while I complete my bachelors in nursing, and he completes his bachelors.I am sorry that this post is so long but I wanted you to have all of the info!
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When he went to have the pre-op visit a few weeks ago they told him to wear his glasses for a few weeks before the appointment. They did the test and they told him his re-frag was 10. When he went to Meps (three years ago) they said it was 13. When he went to meps, he was wearing contacts 24-7 for months at a time. Now he wears glasses full time. The ophthalmologists said the irritation to his eyes could have caused the different results. My next question is which result will they go by? (I swear that is what really happened, if we had known the contacts could effect that he would have stopped wearing them a long time ago!)
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I have a friend who enlisted in the Navy. She and her husband were going thru a divorce, and she did not list their child on her page 2 when she signed up because she could not obtain the social security card for her child. She is now in A school, divorced, and her ex has full custody of their child. Is their a way she could add their child to her page 2 without getting in trouble?
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Hello Master Chief! I have been on the TDRL and was recently found fit for duty. I would like to reenlist but I an unsure if I will be able to as my dependency status has changed. I recently had a baby. I am married and my husband is FTS. We now have four children. I read above that an active duty spouse would not be considered a dependent for waiver purposes. Is this also true for FTS? Thank you for any advice that you can give.
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Hello, I just visited a recruiter today and he told me I had to get a waiver. I am married and have two children. He made it seem very easy to get a waiver, but all the comments I see on here are very discouraging. He made a metal pin in my pinky seem like a bigger deal than my 3 dependents! So my question is I’m sure to him all of my documents look good to him. But will my husbands criminal history have an impact on me enlisting? He was arrested for drugs before we were married and has a few domestic violence charges.
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My sister in law went through a rough time last year and asked if me and my wife would keep her 2 children while she gets her life straight. We ultimately agreed and we kept the children for nearly 8 months and also since we had them for over 6 months we had to claim them on our taxes as dependents. My question is will this come into play while filing for enlistment? We no longer keep her children but have one of our own and also I have 2 from a previous relationship. The 2 from the previous relationship in which I was unmarried..I have a court order for child support and in the order it states I am not the custodial parent. So ultimately my question is will I show as having just 2 dependents (my wife and son), 4 dependents (wife, son, and 2 sons from previous relationship), or 6 dependents (wife, son, 2 sons from past relationship, and sister-in-laws 2 children)? Will claiming my sister in laws children for tax purposes affect my enlistment what so ever?
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My husband is trying to join the navy to make a better life for us and our 2 young boys. He was told he would need to sign a waiver for us…We live with his parents who pay most of everything(rent and bills).I was wondering how this would be taken in to consideration or if it would be? He join so we will have money in the bank and we will be taken care of!! Please let me know how this works for us. Thanks so much -
I am thinking about joining the reserve. I have two kids but one currently does not live with me. Will I have to complete a waiver or give someone temporary custody of my kids.
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Should I wait until October to try to join, because that starts the new Fiscal Year? Or should I go ahead and get started now? I talked to a recruiter back in August and was told right now they are only filling reserves but that can change on a month to month basis. Also that once the new fiscal year starts and new funding is available more active duty enlistments will be considered even those needing waivers.
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Hi, I am married and my third child is due in January. My first child is not with my current wife and I have custody. Am I disqualified from enlisting because of dependants? If I enlisted and I got transfered and my ex tried to get custody is their llegal help available?
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Hello, I am 26yrs and I want to join the Navy. I am married and have a daughter. I want to know what to expect as far as when I can have my family join me. I know I have to attend bootcamp and A-school, so I just need to know what the process is so that I can plan ahead and be prepared. Thank you
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Hello, I’m a 29 year old female looking to join the Navy. I’m married with 3 children. When i spoke to a recruiter they told me i didn’t qualify based off the number of dependents I have and that they are no longer doing doing waivers because of the state of the economy. I read in one of your post that you can get a waiver with 4 dependents as long as you can show proof that you are financially stable. My husband is a Sgt in the Marines and has been in about 12 years now. We receive all the benefits thru him being in the Marines. His basic pay is about $2900 and we also reciceive BAH which is about $1860 a month. Do you think this would qualify me to obtain a waiver? Your advice is much appreciated thank you!
Thank you very much for posting this information. I have one more question. I noticed a section in the enlistee financial statement that asked about dependents’ need for medical assistance. I have type 1 diabetes, will this hinder my husband’s chances of enlisting further?